(Please excuse me while I am a teensy tiny little bit socially awkward and insecure for a moment).
Okay, all you seasoned medical wives out there - I need some help! The Med School Ball is coming up in the middle of April. The Hubby had mentioned it before and I was excited, thinking "Oh, how fun! We can dress up, eat a dinner that I don't have to cook and clean up, and dance!" In my mind, I was wearing my trusty little black dress, and the Hubby had on a tie. But now, we just got the invitation. And now, I'm freaking out.
It's themed. "The Roaring Twenties" (I know, hello). Are we supposed to dress to go with the theme? I have this nightmare that either I will show up as a flapper, and no one else will be dressed in "costume," or vice versa. Either scenario sounds terrible! But our high school proms were themed, and we never dressed according to the theme then (am I allowed to compare this to prom??? Is it similar? Because that's really all I've got!).
Also: the words "Black Tie" are mentioned on the invitation. Now this makes me think no to the flapper outfits, but also no to the little black dress. When I think black tie, I think a seriously fancy dress, going to get your hair done, the Hubby renting a tuxedo, the whole nine yards. Is this accurate?? Because if that's the case, that sounds like a T-O-N of money. Just ball-parking: $100 for a tux, $50 for hair, and I have no idea how much a nice dress, maybe $100 (side-note: would that be called an evening gown now that I'm in my mid-twenties???), plus $70 for tickets....that's $320 minimum. $320! Holy mackerel! That's like a rent payment! (Obviously I am exaggerating. I wish our rent was $320!).
But is that what we should do? Is that the normal? Going all out, the tuxedo, the fancy dress, the hair, the everything? I have a sinking suspicion that this is the case. If the general consensus is that yes, it is normal to wear a fancy dress, (and since my prom dresses are now mildly out of style), I am forced to share a secret with you. Are you ready?
(Man, I hope this doesn't alienate me in the blogging world........)
I hate to admit it, but I am
as skinny as a beanstalk on the thin side (for real - no hating on me for this. Blame it on my genes. Everyone has different body types. This is just mine). Beanstalk as in I don't like buying clothes, because they never fit quite right. Beanstalk as in if clothing from the little girls' department had long enough lengths, I would probably have better luck there (it's all fun and games until you and your eight year old niece show up to a family gathering wearing the same capris...wait, what? No, this hasn't happened). Beanstalk like using the pediatric blood pressure cuff. Beanstalk as in "might be confused with a 12-year-old boy from a distance."
All that being said, I don't want to buy a new dress! I loathe clothing shopping, especially non-clearance rack clothing shopping (which I never do). I literally cannot fathom dropping $100 or more on A DRESS. Which I will likely only wear ONE time (because all the nice events will be with the same group of people from here on out, at least for the next few years, and I'm pretty sure that wearing the same dress to every fancy occasion is considered a faux pas). (Also - I'm having flash backs to wedding dress shopping...another "one-time-only" dress).
So. In summary of my socially awkward/beanstalk confession rant:
- Do we dress according to the Med School Ball theme? (if you say yes to this, you better have a really great description of what someone in the Roaring Twenties would wear).
- Does black tie mean the Hubby in a tuxedo, or would his nice black suit do the trick?
- Does black tie mean that I have to wear a long, fancy dress (if yes, does anyone have one I can borrow because I don't want to spend that much money?), or would a black cocktail dress be appropriate?
- Does black tie mean that I have to go and get my hair done? (bare in mind that if I'm doing it, it might start out curled, but would likely end up in a pony tail. Because I'm classy like that).
- Am I overreacting? Someone please tell me I'm overreacting.
Hey, if all else fails, I think I'm just going to wear my wedding dress. That would be totally appropriate and not socially awkward at all...right?
(Someday...I'll find an excuse to wear it again!!)
Slightly later addition: Shoot. I'm panicking. I'm sure there are people that are going to read this post, and immediately dismiss it, ranting about how "all skinny people complain about their body." But really, women - all women in general - at some point or another are discouraged by their body type. Remember that we are all beautiful - Remember 1 Peter 3.3-4!