Okay, blogging world. I need some advice. What is proper Christmas card etiquette? I mean, last year, we mailed out quite a few Christmas cards. We received...not very many Christmas cards. So what do we do this year? Am I allowed to only mail Christmas cards to the people from whom we received cards last year, unless we strongly want/desire to send a card to a particular person (for example - our grandparents don't send out cards, but obviously we'll still mail one to them).
What about for family? For instance, we have a l.o.t. of cousins - if we mail a card to one cousin, do we mail them to all? What if we mail a card to one cousin, and not to another, but then the non-card-receiving cousin goes to a card-receiving cousin's house and sees our card, and are then hurt? My hubby's has 30+ first cousins. I haven't even met them all, and we talk to/see about two of them regularly (by regularly, I mean once a summer). Can we just mail a card to them? Or should we NOT mail them a card so as to not hurt other family members' feelings?
Or, in an attempt to rationalize our slim receiving of Christmas cards last year, maybe people precisely plan out how many Christmas cards to buy/order (as I do), and they weren't expecting to get a card from us last year, so they didn't have a card to send to us, but added us to their list for this year. So should we just send out Christmas cards to everyone that we did last year, and then if they again don't send us a card, they get a big black line drawn through their name for Christmas 2012??
I'm not positive, but I don't think this is supposed to be quite this complicated. What are your thoughts and suggestions? How do you decide where to send your Christmas cards (particularly if you have a ginormous family)? Do you keep track of who enjoys reciprocating the Christmas card tradition, or do you send regardless of receiving status? If people don't take joy in sending and receiving Christmas cards, I think that I would rather prefer to save my stamp, but at the same time, I'm not a Scrooge! Maybe people still enjoy receiving Christmas cards, even if they don't send them?
Side question: When do you mail out your Christmas cards? Right after Thanksgiving? The week after?